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<blockquote data-quote="Chris Hindle" data-source="post: 73227" data-attributes="member: 552">Re: Do I Tip The Band?Congrats Bennett(maybe listing the location might be a dangerous idea...........&nbsp; We all Love and respect you, but really, who can pass up a party ?)In my experience (20-30 weddings a year, 350 to 1500 guests)1) no tips, and none were expected. - there have been exceptions, but few, and far between. 2) I(we) could pass on the bar, and in many cases, guests lining up drinks for the band just made more &quot;problems&quot; When a load-out starts at 2:30, last thing you need is tipsy &quot;helpers&quot;. A glass of wine with supper is the most I would have, or recommend.3) Food really, really counts. In a couple of cases, &quot;we&quot; were fed only salad, main course, and desert. With a 6 or 7 course spread for the invited ones, it made no difference to us. We were there to work, and the 3 courses didn&#039;t end up making us feel like stuffed pigs. Some of the 5 course &quot;spectaculars&quot; made the 3rd set kind of, well, sluggish.In one, and only one case, we weren&#039;t fed at all, and the band leader didn&#039;t tell us until the second course was being served, and we had already missed the first !&nbsp; That was rough. There was a KFC across the road from the hall, so the drummer and I made a food run. 7 of us huddled around the board eating fried chicken. (If I were a guest, I would have been pretty pissed at that sight / smell).For myself, work is work. I fed myself, and did my job as expected. Professional and all that. I added 10 bucks to the band&#039;s bill for that show. The band, not so much. Sloppy playing, no &quot;groove&quot;, a rather unspectacular performance. I think if I were the bride, I would have paid half what she owed them.4) At my own wedding in 93, the band I was working for at the time offered to play for us. We accepted. They didn&#039;t charge us. As they couldn&#039;t do a regular gig that weekend, I felt kinda bad. I sent my brother (best man) around with some envelopes of $100 each for them, and 4 of the 6 envelopes came back. The buddy I hired to run my rig also send back his envelope. He said &quot;You invited me and my girlfriend to your wedding, I don&#039;t want your money - but thanks for thinking of me&quot;Judy declared at the start of the reception that clanging on plates was not allowed. Tables had to stand up and sing a song.Bad for us. Around 30 of our 150 guests were musicians. No shortage of songs.....</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Chris Hindle, post: 73227, member: 552"] Re: Do I Tip The Band? Congrats Bennett (maybe listing the location might be a dangerous idea........... We all Love and respect you, but really, who can pass up a party ?) In my experience (20-30 weddings a year, 350 to 1500 guests) 1) no tips, and none were expected. - there have been exceptions, but few, and far between. 2) I(we) could pass on the bar, and in many cases, guests lining up drinks for the band just made more "problems" When a load-out starts at 2:30, last thing you need is tipsy "helpers". A glass of wine with supper is the most I would have, or recommend. 3) Food really, really counts. In a couple of cases, "we" were fed only salad, main course, and desert. With a 6 or 7 course spread for the invited ones, it made no difference to us. We were there to work, and the 3 courses didn't end up making us feel like stuffed pigs. Some of the 5 course "spectaculars" made the 3rd set kind of, well, sluggish. In one, and only one case, we weren't fed at all, and the band leader didn't tell us until the second course was being served, and we had already missed the first ! That was rough. There was a KFC across the road from the hall, so the drummer and I made a food run. 7 of us huddled around the board eating fried chicken. (If I were a guest, I would have been pretty pissed at that sight / smell). For myself, work is work. I fed myself, and did my job as expected. Professional and all that. I added 10 bucks to the band's bill for that show. The band, not so much. Sloppy playing, no "groove", a rather unspectacular performance. I think if I were the bride, I would have paid half what she owed them. 4) At my own wedding in 93, the band I was working for at the time offered to play for us. We accepted. They didn't charge us. As they couldn't do a regular gig that weekend, I felt kinda bad. I sent my brother (best man) around with some envelopes of $100 each for them, and 4 of the 6 envelopes came back. The buddy I hired to run my rig also send back his envelope. He said "You invited me and my girlfriend to your wedding, I don't want your money - but thanks for thinking of me" Judy declared at the start of the reception that clanging on plates was not allowed. Tables had to stand up and sing a song. Bad for us. Around 30 of our 150 guests were musicians. No shortage of songs..... [/QUOTE]

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