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<blockquote data-quote="TJ Cornish" data-source="post: 56858" data-attributes="member: 162">Re: An open letter asking for some much needed advice.Hi John.&nbsp; Kudos to you for coming to this point before the divorce is inevitable.&nbsp; Too many road dogs were too late.I just celebrated my 7 year anniversary, and I can tell you that marriage has been incredibly great, and still is.&nbsp; I love coming home to my family, kissing my wife, and wrestling with my 3 year old and 1 year old boys.&nbsp; I wouldn&#039;t have any of this had I not been willing to work hard to make the relationship work, and make personal sacrifices of how I spend my time.&nbsp; That wouldn&#039;t have been possible with the lifestyle you have been living.I have found great fulfillment both technically and personally by working a non-production day job (in technology) and doing sound/music VERY part time on the side.&nbsp; I have a job that pays the bills, allows me to own a home and for my wife to stay home with the kids, and I still get to play with sound toys on the side.&nbsp; Most of my work is with my church or related organizations, so I get the double benefit of doing something fun for a cause I&#039;m passionate about.I would suggest you take a day job out of the field of production for as long as it takes to get on your feet and make some serious deposits in your relationship account.&nbsp; Try to do a little sound work on the side, possibly even donating your time to a church or theater, but be VERY careful about the time you&#039;re away from your wife.&nbsp; Going from one job you&#039;re always away from home to two jobs that have basically the same result isn&#039;t going to do anything for your marriage.&nbsp; Once you&#039;re re-established, you can evaluate and see if an opportunity presents itself in the production world, and if that would be good for your family.Be a positive statistic - stay married to your wife for the rest of your life!</blockquote>

[QUOTE="TJ Cornish, post: 56858, member: 162"] Re: An open letter asking for some much needed advice. Hi John. Kudos to you for coming to this point before the divorce is inevitable. Too many road dogs were too late. I just celebrated my 7 year anniversary, and I can tell you that marriage has been incredibly great, and still is. I love coming home to my family, kissing my wife, and wrestling with my 3 year old and 1 year old boys. I wouldn't have any of this had I not been willing to work hard to make the relationship work, and make personal sacrifices of how I spend my time. That wouldn't have been possible with the lifestyle you have been living. I have found great fulfillment both technically and personally by working a non-production day job (in technology) and doing sound/music VERY part time on the side. I have a job that pays the bills, allows me to own a home and for my wife to stay home with the kids, and I still get to play with sound toys on the side. Most of my work is with my church or related organizations, so I get the double benefit of doing something fun for a cause I'm passionate about. I would suggest you take a day job out of the field of production for as long as it takes to get on your feet and make some serious deposits in your relationship account. Try to do a little sound work on the side, possibly even donating your time to a church or theater, but be VERY careful about the time you're away from your wife. Going from one job you're always away from home to two jobs that have basically the same result isn't going to do anything for your marriage. Once you're re-established, you can evaluate and see if an opportunity presents itself in the production world, and if that would be good for your family. Be a positive statistic - stay married to your wife for the rest of your life! [/QUOTE]

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