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<blockquote data-quote="John O&amp;#039;Brien" data-source="post: 57184" data-attributes="member: 390">Re: An open letter asking for some much needed advice.Guys, these responses have been gold. I thought I might get a couple, but the honesty and bluntness has been incredible to read. You all are absolutely right, family first. It&#039;s something I&#039;ve ever doubted, but just being married a year, I&#039;m still learning how to make that true in my life.&nbsp;My wife has been burned pretty hard by my recent &#039;gig&#039; simply because it separated us, and didn&#039;t pay the bills. Plus, I never really had a chance to make any strides towards being better about communication while on the road. It was like cutting teeth to make a conversation happen. She wanted a couple hours of my time on the phone, I always said I didn&#039;t have that... yada yada. I didn&#039;t realize until later that separating that couple of hours over the course of the day, in shorter increments, was possible. By then the damage was already done and she was starting to resent what I was doing.&nbsp;She doesn&#039;t want me out of the audio industry, she just wants me doing something else within. I even mention the possbility of larger, shorter, higher paying tours in the distant future, and she freaks out about that. I just need to take the time to settle where I&#039;m at, and dig in and just get right side up in life. I&#039;m hoping that this regional house works out(I found out sometime next week) simply because it would keep me home, pay pretty darn well, and as a cool side bonus, would actually probably be a step up in my career simply because of the client list and warehouse of gear that they keep on hand. Don&#039;t get me wrong, we&#039;re no where near divorce, but we certainly aren&#039;t where we imagined we&#039;d be... living with her parents and not a dime to our name. I take full responsibility for that, knowing that my decisions to travel were a huge part of that happening. But I&#039;m choosing to stay optimistic. I&#039;ve never been a glass half empty kind of guy, and I know hundreds of us are happily married and love our careers. I&#039;ll be one of those soon!</blockquote>

[QUOTE="John O'Brien, post: 57184, member: 390"] Re: An open letter asking for some much needed advice. Guys, these responses have been gold. I thought I might get a couple, but the honesty and bluntness has been incredible to read. You all are absolutely right, family first. It's something I've ever doubted, but just being married a year, I'm still learning how to make that true in my life. My wife has been burned pretty hard by my recent 'gig' simply because it separated us, and didn't pay the bills. Plus, I never really had a chance to make any strides towards being better about communication while on the road. It was like cutting teeth to make a conversation happen. She wanted a couple hours of my time on the phone, I always said I didn't have that... yada yada. I didn't realize until later that separating that couple of hours over the course of the day, in shorter increments, was possible. By then the damage was already done and she was starting to resent what I was doing. She doesn't want me out of the audio industry, she just wants me doing something else within. I even mention the possbility of larger, shorter, higher paying tours in the distant future, and she freaks out about that. I just need to take the time to settle where I'm at, and dig in and just get right side up in life. I'm hoping that this regional house works out(I found out sometime next week) simply because it would keep me home, pay pretty darn well, and as a cool side bonus, would actually probably be a step up in my career simply because of the client list and warehouse of gear that they keep on hand. Don't get me wrong, we're no where near divorce, but we certainly aren't where we imagined we'd be... living with her parents and not a dime to our name. I take full responsibility for that, knowing that my decisions to travel were a huge part of that happening. But I'm choosing to stay optimistic. I've never been a glass half empty kind of guy, and I know hundreds of us are happily married and love our careers. I'll be one of those soon! [/QUOTE]

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